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'Almost Home' story Cathy's final journey.
Myra and Cathy pie fest
From Carol and Peter (family)
From Jerry A. 'Dancing for Joyce' at Arbour Heights.
From Brenda S. 'Fear and fussy.'
From Patricia C. 'Generosity'
Sept. 29, 2016
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Feb. 7, 2017
March 26, 2017
Cathy passed away, graceful as always, after a very short but valiant struggle against a previously undiagnosed cancer. Her courage stands as a testament to her strong will, self reliance and high standards. Second of ten children, (mother Bertha Lynch, father Al), raised in Lansdowne, Cathy set out on her own path as a teenager. I have had the pleasure of meeting most of Cathy's siblings and their partners and received a warm welcome by all.
Loving daughters, Pam (Richard), Jan (Anthony), grandchildren Kate, Reg, Jack Armstrong, Elly and Ross Ayling are custodians of Cathy's legacy of living a meaningful joy filled life.
Cathy and I met at Shirley Skinner's Legion dances on Montreal Street. We spent about eight months of sporadic casual dance floor interactions before finally leaping across the great chasm of risk that leaves behind solitude and uncertainty. We had both settled into a comfortable routine as 'singles' and were quite surprised to be 'getting serious.' A few after-dance casual meetings with friends, a luncheon date with Ron and Dorothy D. in Windmills restaurant our history was in the making. We had a lot of things in in common and uncommon, but our similar natural curiosity inspired us both to find out what made the other person 'tick' and that kept us going for the first year. We also both had a sensitivity that gave us good base to work from, and caring and affection were fundamental for smoothing bumps. At the three year mark a friend of mine asked,"Oh are you two still together? " "Yes" I replied, "We are focussing on what works, not what doesn't work." We had quickly learned that we had very similar values in the important areas - values as foundations for the continuing relationship. Oh, did I mention that we laughed a lot, loved finding obscure movie to watch, cooking together and just being together? At our 'stage of life' we were blessed to have found each other' and shared some wonderful times. That thought, however, does not help ease the pain of loss.
One of the biggest challenges we had was Cathy adjusting to the back country way of life. I live on Long L ake near Parham. Not that Cathy wasn't familiar with rural living, but she had worked very hard to create a comfortable lifestyle, and her carefully planned condo apartment and personal surroundings attested to this. Even though I had high speed internet, running water and flush toilets she was somewhat shocked by the length of the to-do-lists necessary to live out in the woods. But, being the trooper she was, she pitched in and carved herself a little niche in the garden to call her own: planted vegetables in the vegetable void, filled flowers pots and personalized her space at the 'cottage.' This included removing all my curtains and the tape and staples that held them onto the rods, and meticulously measuring and sowing them to make the place look like the Hilton. Cathy had heightened senses in all areas, especially visual, hearing, taste and touch. Her visual gave her an acuity in fashion and photography. She liked one part of the cottage area for it contrast in lighting. We called it the 'Mossy-Fernway.' I will dedicate this area of the cottage to Cathy with a plaque. The idea for the entranceway to this area was inspired by Cathy-fencing and a gateway made from old logs.
Cathy's condo group of friends were a mainstay in Cathy's life, especially her social group committee. This group of ladies, Jane, Shelna, Joanne, Mary Ellen and Rose both organized and ran some of the most memorable dinners for the residents and friends of Greenview Towers. Theme parties, outdoor parties with live music, games nights and pool gatherings were the backbone of social life at the residence. Cathy's reputation as a social convener with her group gave her both lasting memories and friendships with the residents. I had the pleasure of meeting many of them as a 'draw ticket' cashier for various functions. Musicians who played there included John Storms (Cheryl), Richard Abernathy-who is fighting his own health challenge, and Bill Drader who is still in touch with the residents and was a good friend and companion of Cathy's for over 10 years. Bill and I are best friends and play music together. We had dinner together on the day that Cathy passed away and were able to share many great memories of Cathy while trying to find meaning in the sadness of her loss.
Dancing was another of Cathy's great loves. We invented our own walse steps (at least I had) despite taking dance lessons in Harrowsmith with Linda and John Tromellen. We would dance around my living room and onto the deck and back in again to music from my collection of two hundred eight tracks, boxes of cassettes and 78's so sold old they were only pressed on one side. Cathy's musical ability was evident when we competed on Karaoke with friends. To this day Cathy holds the record score of 96/100. Her pitch perfect ear and voice, love of her favorite artist songs and words gave her the edge. Kris Kristoferson, Gene Watson and Merle Haggard were part of her wide range of music loves. We attended various live shows in Kingston which ranged from Randy Backmann to the Four Tenors. Cathy encouraged me in getting my guitar out of it's case and writing songs. I find solace today in still doing that knowing she might still be singing along.
Through the dancing we formed some great friendships. These often resulted in get-togethers, outdoor concerts, dinner parties, home visits and vacation stop overs. Special mention to Ron and Karen for hosting us in Ontario and in Florida; Marilyn, Mary, Emile, Suzzane, Mario, and Kevin for some memorable times. Barb. D. and Cathy enjoyed a great vacation in Arizona where Cathy finally got to see the Grand Canyon. And a big thank you to all who came to Cathy's 75th, truly a surprise, second birthday party.
Another shared love that was quite a coincidence was putting some time and effort in Halloween costumes. Cathy's master seamstress skills gave her the edge in producing finely crafted outfits. My imagination and quasi engineered outfits provided another perspective. We were pleased to win first prize at Shirley's Halloween dances for two years in a row. We had discovered that we had both won many first prizes in years previously before we met.
Cathy's funeral service was held at Our Lady of Lourdes, Days Road, Kingston, October 7, 2016. Flowers from family, chosen by Cathy.
Mass, Priest: Father Brennan
Prelude Hymn: Ave Maria. Processional Hymn: Morning Has Broken
Gathering Prayer, Liturgy of the Word
First Reading: Kim Driscoll Ecclesiastes 3.1-11
Second Reading: Mary Jo Lynch, 2 Timothy 4.Flowers from family, chosen by Cathy 6-8. Gospel: Matthew 5.1-12
Preparation of Gifts, Hymn: Peace Prayer
Liturgy of the Eucharist. Communion Hymn: Be Not Afraid. Recessional Hymn: Amazing Grace
The reception after-this view shows about half the hall.
Cathy on a walk near Mountain Grove. She is now walking into the light beyond the trees.
Picture was placed in Cathy's 'In Memoriam notice' Sept 26, 2017 with the words:
"You Were My Light. You Shine As Brightly As Ever." Fred
Cathy's pictures by group.
* Last posting Feb.. 7, 2017. Added poem
Cards and letters rec'd: partial list. Thank you to all.
Aded-Keg. Alec Brookes. . Alice Marlin. Anne. Archie Meeks. Angela Franke. Arja Art. Barb. Dafoe. Barbara Patrick. Berta Plaschka. Betty Cunningham.. Bill Drader. Bill Thomas. Bill Richards. Bob Collins. Bob Allen. Brenda. Bruce Buttimore. Bruce -Petrie Ford. Bud and Maybelle. .Carol. Carol Carry Lilly.Cat Pedro. Catherine Johnson. Cathy Alders. . Cel. Chery. Colin and Pat Humphrey. Cheryl Storms. Chris Barfitt. Chris Stesky. Clint Sagrift and Therry Lassard. Colleen Clark. Craig D. Craig and Joyce Halton. Dar Check. Dave and Carol. David Coombs. Dave Combe. Dawn Patterson. Deborah Glew. Denice.King. Denise Pinsonnault.. Diana Spadic. Diane Mitchell, Don McCrow. Don Landry. Donna Wagner Donna Hiuser Doreen and Don. Doreen. Jordan. Dorothy. Duane and Merle. Ellen Barrett. Ed Whelan. Eleanor Pah. Ellie Macklin. Eric. Erin and Bob, (Alberta).Ernie (Dance) .Faye Baker . Francois Lacroix. Frunst. Gail. Gary Schleiffer: Gary and Jane Drew, Gene and Mary. Grace Kingston. Hazel Haneault Heather. and Eric. Heather Jackson. Heather Aldous Brown Herb Howard. Howard and Marlene Mayo. Irene J.W. Jane. Jane. Janet Watson. Hanley Janice Hickingbottom Jen. Jerry Ackerman. Jim. McMullen. Jill and Wayne. Joan Cherry Joanne Hartnell Joe and Gail Majkurt. John Ford John and Cheryl .Johnson. John John Varty and Myra. John and Cheryl Storms. John Chartrand. Joyce. Judi Fox. Judy Mason and Kevin Palmer. Karen. Kathleen Caswell. Kelly. Ken Currie. Kim. Linda and Peter Whipple. Lee Hammell. Lee Keeler. Les from Toronto.. Linda Leach. Lisa Moses Liz. Gordon Liz Janzen. Lorna Campbell. . Lynn Shane Lynn Ze. Mabel Delaney. Mabelle Maggie Pearson. Mary and Bob. MirianFr. Maria Zielinski Margie P. Maria. Mario. Marilyn Martin. Marilyn. Meeks. Marjolie Mark Wardley Marlene Mary Dobson. Mary, Margaret and Bert Ivey. Margie and Ron. Marjolie Evans. Mary E. Melanie Robertson-King Merle Michael YU Nancy Hilder Naomi Ono. Nerissa Pineda Nirmal Jain Noel. Norma Clarke. Norma Kenny. Pat Cove. Patricia Capitain. Patrick and Susan Kehoe. Pascal. Karen Katherine. Alexandre. Phyllis and Eric Barr. Rafael and Cathy Ferrandez Rick Rob. Ferguson. Rob Roger Haneault. Rolf Satler. Ron Lloyd & Karen Sharon Ryan Sandra J. Jackson Shelna Paton , Sheri-Petrie Ford. Shirley Skinner. Stů Sue Bates Jerry and Conrad., Susan Morris. Susan Ross. Susie. Susan Leach. Suzzane Millar. Suzzanne St. Pierre. Sylvia Powers. Taylor Whitney. Terry. Than Nguyen. Therry Vasili and Theresa. Vera Vibeke. Victor Heese. Virginia Glover Wendy P. William. Winnie Nimmo. Winnie. Pietrykowski
88 names from Shirley's dance included-from card.
Wilket Creek (The Creakers) Running Group.
Fred's Parham, neighborhood.
Cathy's condo friends.